another “holiday” done
I know that sounds kinda depressing, but I can honestly say I am relieved to be finished with this day. Since Chris died the kids and I have emotionally plowed through 3 holidays….our anniversary, Chris’s birthday and Fathers Day. I am not a very creative person so it’s difficult to come up with memorable things to do. Especially when all I would like to do is skip the day(s) all together. I haven’t quite figured out how you “celebrate” these days without the person who is the center of it all.
We had a fairly typical Sunday. Worship (which was very encouraging spiritually) and the kids picked a Chinese restaurant for lunch. We actually laughed because Chris really didn’t like Chinese, so it wasn’t really in honor of him, but more in honor of him not having to go! We shared some memories at lunch, but mostly just chatted about some future plans, how everyone was feeling and talked about todays sermon a little. We didn’t even visit the grave, because…well…honestly, we are all just tired of doing that. We are wondering if every holiday has to include visiting the grave? that sounds awful. So there you have it..a very typical boring Fathers Day for us. And we don’t have to do it again for another whole year.
I’ve asked my kids at various times what they miss most about their Dad..the comments are simple…”I miss his hugs”, I miss his sense of humor”, “I miss the funny nicknames he had for us”, I miss him helping me with my car”,”I miss him just being around”, “I miss being able to ask him anything and he would know the answer”. The comments are simple but profound I think. All of them speak of security. The presence of a father is important.
I know for me I miss the teamwork of parenting..but that’s for another blog 🙂
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